After showing her transition online, the 29-year-old actress came out officially as a trans woman on the cover of TIME magazine.
Tommy Dorfman officially came out as a trans woman, and announced her pronouns are she/her on her cover interview for TIME magazine.
For a while, Tommy's fans and people on social media -and also in real life- started noticing that the the 13 Reasons Why actress started to change both her style and her appearance, but as she never said anything about it, nobody asked... Until now, that the 29-year-old actress announced she's "thrilled to reintroduce [herself] as the woman [she's] today."
During her interview with TIME, she didn't call her identification with being a woman "coming out", but a reintroduction "having made a transition medically." "Coming out is always viewed as this grand reveal, but I was never not out. Today is about clarity: I am a trans woman. My pronouns are she/her. My name is Tommy," she explained.
Also, she opened up about wanting her transition to be implicit, saying that as "transition is beautiful" she wanted the world to see what it looks like. "So I kept, on Instagram, a diaristic time capsule instead—one that shows a body living in a more fluid space," she said, "With this medical transition, there has been discourse about my body, and it began to feel overwhelming. So, recently I looked to examples of others who have come out as trans. There’s the version I couldn’t really afford to do, which is to disappear for two years and come back with a new name, new face and new body. But that’s not what I wanted."
This is an evolution of Tommy. I’m becoming more Tommy.
Tommy also spoke about the fact that she will be keeping her name as she was named after her mother's brother who died just a month after she was born: "I feel very connected to that name, to an uncle who held me as he was dying. This is an evolution of Tommy. I’m becoming more Tommy."
Transitioning has been liberating and clarifying.
The actress also thanked her firend, actress, writer and director Lena Dunham for giving her her first role as a girl! "It was so exciting and validating," she said, and also opened up about how her romantic relationships changed throughout her life and transition: "I was in a nine-year relationship in which I was thought of as a more male-bodied person, with a gay man. I love him so much, but we’ve been learning that as a trans woman, what I’m interested in is not necessarily reflected in a gay man. So we’ve had incredible conversations to redefine our relationship as friends. Transitioning has been liberating and clarifying."
"My sister flies, today and every day," Lena wrote in a sweet Instagram post dedicated to her friend, "So proud of you @tommy.dorfman, for sharing your truth and lighting the way for us all."